Now I couldn't gather much from your post. What I did gather from your heading is that your friend told you that "You have always hurt me". Now I have recently split ways with one of my best friends I was friends with the guy for 14-years and have known him for like 18. Me being 22 gives you a good idea of how tight we were.

He was at my birthday party every year since I was eight and vice versa. We hung out at least 4-days a week. But last year we started drifting a part a bit. He began drinking a ton and smoking and sleeping around, just partying in general and I am not the party kind of person. Anyways over the year he started pressuring me to party more and more.

This lead to a similiar situation. He told one of our mutual friends that "Your a better person than he is, I would ditch him as a friend in a second for you". The mutual friend approached me and told me about that. I then approached my best friend and confronted him asking him if he really said that. He replied that he did and that we had never really been friends.

So according to him we hadn't been friends all this 14-years. I was extremely hurt, I then tried fixing things. I started trying to find out why he said that. Long story short every time I'd fix things and we'd be hanging out again he'd treat me like a second rate friend. He'd always guilt trip me into to doing things like drinking etc...etc...

Finally at Christmas he guilted me into inviting him to a party. At that party I told my other best friend (Has been my friend since I was 4) that I did not like how I was being this friends bitch. I said I try again and again and again to fix things but I'm being treated like shit. I then said something about not liking being friends with him anymore.

Apparently my other friend over heard me say this and stormed out of the party. He then messaged me saying he was offended and that I should do something to make up for it. Long story short I finally decided "Fuck you" I stopped replying to him, I tried fixing things and I could never do enough to make things right.

Their are two options!

#1. Your friend may be depressed and might not mean what she said. She could really use your help and if that is the case then I say try and make things right.

#2. Your friend is changing and isn't really your friend anymore. If she makes you do things and such and you try your hardest to fix things but she still says these kinds of things. That is emotional abuse and you should not allow her to make you feel bad.

The key is sometimes friends aren't who you think they are. People change and maybe the friend you loved isn't who she is today. Don't allow yourself to become an emotional punching bag, I'm sure you have other friends who will be more supportive of you. If you don't have other friends, make some. Don't let one girl ruin your life.

Friends come and go sometimes. You may think you'll be friends for ever but in reality sometimes people change. Especially through their teen years. I am only friends with one person who has been my friend since I was four. All my other friends are from highschool. Fact is people change!

Honestly no bull, if any friend ever said that to me id laugh straight in his face for saying something so corny so seriously. If ive hurt the guy for a while then the guy must be an idiot to not distance himself from me or tell me why ive hurt him.

I certaintly wouldnt grovel and ask what i did wrong and how i can fix it like a sentimental fool, thatd be the end of it id just tell me to get lost then if im hurting him.

got to be a troll post. I'm seriously.

surely no-one irl would actually post something like this?

@OP: If it's not, then in the words of the great Jimmy Pop "Life's short and hard like a body-building elf"

you'll get over it.

You could try giving more details, don't you think?

Okej! I gave her a chance, and 3 days into it...she calls my mom a bitch and says she is not a good mom...

So I hate her...what would you do now?!

I would be really upset, that's for sure.

Ah too bad you're a girl and too young to solve it as guys... beer solves our problems..

Anyway, if you didn't steal her boyfriend there is always a chance girls can get past there problems.. maybe she needs space at first, maybe it will take some years.. but in the meantime don't hate her.. hate doesn't solve anything.. remember the good times you had with her and she will remember it too in time...

*hugs*

Years? Don't exaggarate.

There is no solution here other than confronting the problem. The "years" and "space" parts come if you screw up.

they are girls... normal men stuff doesn't count in this.. we can have a fight and drink a beer together afterwards.. men can confront each other cause they know there is beer afterwards... girls can scratch each others eyes out just because they don't like the look another girl gave her... after years of personal research I came to the conclusion that girls can hate and be mean for nothing..  Most of us have been there when his gf/wife has a fight like this. We all learned, with or without scars, to stay away from it and let time solve the problem.. even if it's years... girls tend to forget after a period of time what they were fighting about and only remember the happy times..

First figure out why she hates you, then either deal with it, or not, depending on the answer to the first thing