@Crystalchild: Your question(s) seems to be more of a "is there a creator or not" kind of question. I would suggest looking into creation apologetics first. It seems like now you are getting hung up on certain aspects of a specific theology, when you haven't satisfied in your thoughts the fact that there very well may be a creator. When I first began to question everything, I had to settle things logically that there could be a creator. From there I went to looking into specific faiths. Different strokes for different folks, but that was the only way I could go about it. To me it seemed backwards to look into certain faiths and those specifics, when I was not yet satisfied that there even could be a creator.
1) Most people do believe in a creator. Pretty much every culture that I'm aware of believed there is a creator/higher power. It is our nature to think this and wonder, not just live by bodily instints as animals do. Not only this, but many people accept there is a creator/higher power through logic. Science can take us back to the big bang, but what caused the big bang? I heard Stephen Hawking recently said that he no longer thinks God is a part of that equation, that gravity fills the God-part of the puzzle. My question is, what did gravity have around to have an effect on to initiate the big bang? What caused gravity to be? Was gravity around before existence as we know it?
As far as why God should "stay away" from non-believers, that is getting more into specific theology. I'm pretty sure Muslims and Christians(what I am) agree on this. God doesn't "stay away" from non-believers, they "stay away" from Him. If there is a God, a bad "character scheme" would be to reject God.
2) I'm not muslim so I cannot really speak about what the Quran says about women. I do know that the Old(some there I know) and New Testamant say that men and women have their own roles in marriage and the church.
3) From a Christian point of view, we all have access to the word of God now. As far as prophecies being told to certain individuals and why should they be revealed to certain individuals...why not? Theoretically, if there is a creator, why should he do things according to our wishes? You said if you were the creator of everything, you would do things your way; if there is a creator, he is certainly doing things his way. That is his perogative, just as it would be yours if you were the one who made it all. And from a Christian point of view, we can all recieve some sort of divine revelation; it doesn't need to be a prophecy pertaining to the salvation of mankind, end times, or anything like that. We do have to come to God on His terms, not our own, which is a problem for most of us.
Again, I'm not Muslim, so I cannot really speak from a Muslim point of view, but Islam is an Abrahamic faith, as is Christianity, which I am a part of. So there is some common ground there, but I'm not a Muslim so I cannot really speak for them.