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SvennoJ on 08 February 2024
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Shtinamin_ said:

I define in a post, this post below.

This disintegration of the family leads to calamities for any community, or nation.
Here are just some:

A disintegration is the lack of protecting it.
This disintegration comes from:

  • Lack of family responsibilities (Equal partnership, sexual commitment to the partner, two parent household, divorcing, parents not protecting their families nor providing the necessities of life nor nurturing children, abandonment, domestic and sexual violence, cohabitation, etc.)
  • Lack of teaching values to the children (forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, wholesome recreational activities, faith, hope, charity, virtue, knowledge, patience, humility, diligence, obedience, honesty, trust, how to overcome addiction, how to be law-abiding citizens, etc.)


There are scenarios where a divorce is better than a hated marriage, but I'm focusing on the commonalities. 
And disability, death, or other circumstances may necessitate individual adaptation. Hopefully extended families can lend support when needed.

Thank you for that question! I think it's an underlying problem that many do not see.

I would blame it more on the rise of individualism, social media and the internet in general.

"It takes a village to raise a child" and that 'village' has been disintegrating. Defunding schools, after school projects, local events, neighborhood events. We used to hang out with other kids and their families when growing up, which gives you much more exposure to other ideas and cultures than hanging out online. Neighborhoods have turned into homogeneous gated communities, kids are told to stay inside. Urban sprawl has moved everyone away from each other, far less integration and mixed households compared to 40 years ago.

The family isn't disintegrating, but is under a lot more stress nowadays. All the things you mention happened 40 years ago as well, but the neighborhood was far more invested into the well being of their neighbors. (Mostly through gossip lol) People don't have time for their neighbors anymore, both parents working multiple jobs, barely hanging on keeping up with the bills.

Social media has replaced traditional support systems. And it's all too easy to fall into echo chambers on social media. There is no course correction there, mostly reinforcement of bad ideas.