Verter said:
I see what you mean. I was once in a situation like that (a long time ago): I was kind of infatuated with a girl and we hung out a lot, but she just saw me as a friend. It's not a pleasant situation, that I can tell. Also, to make it worse, I was the only one who didn't know how I felt about her: self-deception to its fullest. Fortunately, that only happened once. In the present, however, I think I have the opposite problem: besides the difficulty to find someone who's looking exactly for the same kind of relationship than me, I'm now "in love" with my solitude, so it's way harder for me to develop as much interest for other people as before; they'd have to really shake my mind so that I could click with them. In that regard, your piece of advice is pretty good: making things clear from the beginning saves a lot of time for everyone (and also makes my descriptions in Tinder and other apps way less appealing =P). |
I know exactly how you feel with being in love with your solitude. Actually you will find that there are a lot of woman who are at that same place as well. Try changing up your Tinder profile to highlight that and see what happens. There are a lot of women who do not want needy men and it seems you do not want a needy woman. Instead you want someone who has their space and you have yours and you both have common interest to do things together. Stating those things in your profile I believe will net you someone who is in the same place as you.