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VAMatt on 28 January 2021
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Phoenix20 said:
VAMatt said:

From what I've seen, essentially 100% of people that are willing to take advice and put work into online dating have success with it.  Its people that refuse to listen to the people that are good at, refuse to date people that aren't 9/10, or won't put in any work that don't do well.  I've obviously only seen a handful of people directly.  But, through the grapevine it has become very clear to me that online dating works for anyone that has reasonable standards and is open to advice.  

If you only swipe (or message) 3 hot chicks per day, and you're not super attractive (either physically or on paper) yourself, that's not going to work.  You have to hit 50 or 100 people per day.  If you haven't dated lately, you have to go out with anyone that will agree to date you so that you can get some practice.  If you're a 2/10, you can't expect to land a 7 or 8.  Do those things, get good pictures, work on profile language, change your messaging text until you find stuff that works, put an hour a day into it, and you'll get some action.  Do that long enough, and you'll get better and better, and you'll be able to move up in quality of person that you're dating.  

That is a very bold statement to make that 100% of people have success with online dating if they follow advice. Online dating is for fools, more success can be found with talking to people in real life. 

I disagree with your advice that I and others on dating apps have failed because we only message models. There are no models on dating apps, model pics are  stock photos that are used by scammers. Photos can be checked to reveal whether or not a photo is a stock photo with multiple hits.

Looks are subjective and vary from person to person and are based on opinion. There is no  accurate 1 to 10 looks rating system. One person's attractive could be someone else's average.  

Spamming 50 to 100 profiles is unlikely to generate more results and spamming only wastes time and increases frustration. The OP swiped 100,000 times on Tinder for only 17 matches.

Hour per day on online dating or make constant profile changes  sounds like a waste of time. The OP made changes to his profile with different pictures and it made no difference.

Willing to date anyone and message everyone is a bad idea because you waste time talking to people you are not interested in.

Well, I haven't done a scientific study on it.  But, I have seen success personally, and among close associates.  I have also taken multiple friends that said stuff much like you and the OP about how it doesn't work, taught them how to do it, and have seen them have success.  I've also talked to dozens of people that have relayed to me hundreds of stories about online dating success and failure.  From that, I've seen that people that take advice, keep trying, put in work, and have realistic expectations almost *always" succeed.  And, the people that don't do those things *always* fail. So, I feel very confident that I am correct.  It certainly can't be true in 100% of cases.  But, it is close to that number, which is why I said "essentially".