RolStoppable said:
As both of you have misunderstood the point I was trying to get across, it wasn't about getting a sense of humor. Lightening up is about general attitude, namely if you expect to encounter hate for things you like, then you'll find hate even in the tiniest things. In its most pronounced form, that's the attitude that oppressed white males have, so they take offense to things where other people wouldn't even get the slightest idea of discrimination. Or as another example, if you constantly expect that the world is going to turn into shit, then you'll post reactions to political events like CaptainExplosion does. That's why you should lighten up or else you might turn into an ultra-defensive person over time. |
Not to disparage the good captain, but I think most people would pretty easily be able to tell the difference between a random post authored by me and one authored by him without benefit of attached usernames. There is much we may share in common, but styles of communication aren't among them and that's pretty obvious.
Anyway, more directly to your point/case, I don't know if people perceive me as being the heavy-handed sort or not, but I certainly don't try to be. Matter-of-factly, I DON'T give voice to most of the things that irk me. I let the vast majority of it slide because I often feel like saying anything isn't worth it because it will likely just provoke a wildly disproportionate backlash. I don't go around "calling people out" for their latest slip of the tongue or whatever. There are some people on these forums who have habits like that, but I'm not one of them. And I report nothing. I also censored my post we're referencing a lot. My first instinct was to write a long string of swear words, but I opted to compose myself enough to write a coherent response instead. I go out of my way not to be seen as hypersensitive, or like a stereotypical "SJW" or what have you.
None of this, however, means that I don't have feelings, or that my words don't necessarily have the unseen context of my day at work or of hunger or stress over bills or a wave of tremendous loneliness or just feeling like I'm a total failure at life or my depression getting to me. Not to get too dark here, but the truth is that I spend much of a typical day trying to find little reasons to go on. Any and all of that pain, anxiety, and frustration might find indirect expression sometimes in my writings here. Sometimes reading a bunch of blatantly misogynistic comments that serve to ruin the one thing I felt like I had to look forward to that day just serves as the icing on the cake that makes me feel like I'm being made fun of by a whole community of people I associate myself with and makes me feel like I simply must have some sympathy from somebody somewhere. And then people like yourself tell me that can't have that and that I'm a wimpy snowflake (as politely as you can manage).
