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HoloDust on 19 December 2018
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KiigelHeart said:
HoloDust said:

Yes, once we have them, we will do anything for them. But before we have them, that very desire to have them...pure ego and indulgence. You just need to dig deep enough and be honest with yourself to realize it.

So, I did give you an answer, it's maybe not the answer you wanted to hear.

Oh I'm honest with myself alright. Done plenty of things I'd consider selfish too, nothing wrong with that.

Your logic just doesn't make much sense. I even wrote some things that were part of my reasons to have a child but it seems you missed them.

 

Our ego dictates who we are. Even a will to live goes down to ego. But doing something you want isn't always selfish. 

 

No point arguing this any further though. 

No, actually I haven't missed your reasons. But, you're right, there's not point in arguing it further - I have a certain way of looking at what makes us tick in this reality, not something I expect for anyone to either understand or agree with.

SvennoJ said:
HoloDust said:

Yes, once we have them, we will do anything for them. But before we have them, that very desire to have them...pure ego and indulgence. You just need to dig deep enough and be honest with yourself to realize it.

So, I did give you an answer, it's maybe not the answer you wanted to hear.

Is it selfish to make your wife happy? I was pretty indifferent about having kids yet making my wife happy was a priority. I'm very glad we have kids now although I haven't been able to give her the girl she wanted. Life is all about compromises, 2 boys is enough. Yet I guess I'm being selfish too for not wanting to try a third time :p (She's happy with two boys as well, a third would really be a bit much at our age)

My wife wanted boys, I wanted at least one girl - she told me "dream on, I'm not giving birth to a girl"...well, I guess she was right.