Some guys remain single by choice because it is easier!

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Dark_Lord_2008 said:

I have lived a life of loneliness, isolation and misery. I have never had the opportunities in life and endured endless bad luck. I have quit on many things and tried for a new start but it never seemed to work out because of endless bad luck. Life does not change by reading self help books, thinking positive or praying. I do not like failure or rejection so I do not bother trying. I do not accept failure, I take it all personally and I get upset. I never had the mental maturity to cope with dating mind games so I gave up at 16. I have no brothers and no friends to back me up in fights at a bar/club so I stay at home at play my video games and watch TV. One less guy in the dating game makes it easier for the competition and it is better to give up when you have no hope of success. It takes self-awareness to understand you have no hope at dating and your time and effort is better used doing other things.

I have spoke the truth on here and admitted I have no hope in regards to dating and accepted it was better to give up and focus on living out my life.  I have so much time to watch all the TV shows I want to watch, listen to music, read more  books, fitness and play all the video games I want to play.  When there is no pressure it is time to relax and enjoy life doing things I want to do. When you are single for life and you have more time to do what you want with your life. No responsibilities and no pressure of trying to make other people happy. I will pursue interests and hobbies that add value and make me feel happy. 

For real man, being single aint so bad. I get lonely at times, but at the end of the day I appreciate my solitude and the peace and freedom that comes with that. I could choose to spend a lot of time sulking and feeling down but I reached a point in my mid 20s where I mostly cut that out. I came to the revelation that there's no sense in compounding being alone with feeling like shit in addition. (Alcohol helps too lol, though I try to keep it in relative moderation).

And I think deep down, from where my life is at right now, I just don't really care to get into a relationship. Maybe this will change soon, and when it does, I'll be ready to buckle down and kick some ass. But the way I see it I need to spend a bit more time getting my affairs in order.

I've have a small core group of cool and supportive friends and family, and have had female friends that keep me from spiraling too far into loneliness, but even if you don't have much in that area, just being content within yourself and taking care of yourself, having fun, etc. That's all that matters at the end of the day. And it couldn't hurt to get out there and make some friends for starters - join a club, take a class, join a sporting group/team, etc. Hell even online communities are better than nothing.

I've certainly had my share of opportunities with a few women I was pretty sure were into me (which was mostly as a result of simply hanging out with my good friend and his friends), but I squandered the opportunities thanks to my shyness and/or nativity at the time. But I use that as a learning experience.

It also helps to put things in perspective. I walk through the streets of Chicago and see homeless people everywhere; I've heard of people who have lost very close loved ones and have had cases of cancer and other diseases. It can always be worse.