You’re going to have to clarify. When playing a game, and you want to access things like Party Chat, or Friends List, don’t simply tap the PS button. Instead, hold it down. This opens up a quick menu on the side of your screen that is designed to let you get into specific things like messages, friends, party, etc., so you don’t have to essentially pause your game by the going to the main home screen. It’s quick and easy, and never takes you out of the game you’re playing.
Edit: nevermind, you’re having a completely different issue. Glad you were able to fix it.