'Tis the author of this thread again. Just wanted to thank everyone for their contributions to this thread and for making it a thoughtful and productive conversation. 
To add a few of my thoughts at this point...
Based on how this thread has gone, I no longer believe that the views that concerned me are held by the majority (though I do believe that some people are being dishonest about their motives for holding certain views) and that's encouraging. Honestly, maybe my perspective has been warped a little bit by just kind of feeling like Smurfette around here for long enough. To me anyway, it's weird and uncomfortable to be the only female person that I typically see around here on any given day. Those dynamics just make it feel like I really don't belong here and like people are just tolerating me, and I don't want to be that disruptive force that ruins everything. I often feel like I'm walking on eggshells to avoid disrupting the pre-established culture here while also aspiring to contribute to it in a way that is my own. It feels like threading a needle sometimes, and I'm not good at sowing. I usually try to avoid discussions of like women in video games and stuff like that for that reason. But there are a lot of them.
I also think that things ARE getting better over time. Like I've seen a study finding that, in the seventh console generation, games using male lead characters outnumbered those that used female leads by a margin of 14 to 1, and others that suggest that 8th (current) generation, by contrast, has seen that ratio narrow down to 5 to 1. So yeah, I do think things are getting better over time, and that things like Gamergate and whatnot that have been discussed here are really just backlashes resisting those changes. I guess I was just starting to worry that that type of thinking represented the dominant perspective here.
Anyway, there's been a lot of discussion about specific games here, and I can't speak to the particular franchise that is Battlefield because it just isn't something that I follow. However, I will say that, in my experience and observation, people mostly play video games to escape the drudgery of real life and that, to that end, video games aren't often very realistic. Even "history pieces" typically contain at least as much fantasy as they do reality. Women have fantasy lives too. That's all I really feel qualified to say on that subject without knowing more than I do about that particular franchise. I like the Wolfenstein games. 
I also kind of wish that there were more video games that really are pretty realistic. I think that games like Gone Home highlight that the revisitation of historical types of settings, even portrayed with striking accuracy, doesn't always have to be male-centric. The history books may not think that the stories of girls and women matter very much, but I do.
Anyway, thank you again everyone for your thoughtful replies, which have been clarifying.
