| Hiku said: Basically, "never interact with anyone. If something bad happens, don't complain because you should have known it could happen." |
Ok I see what you mean but when I say "don't complain" I don't mean don't file charges or don't go to the police. Of course if a crime is committed you must defend yourself or the children or whatever the case may be.
When I say "don't complain" it's more of a figure of speech than something taken literally. It's more like don't be surprised something bad happened if you take risks (through marriage or any other situation that can potentially bring about danger)
And you're right about people when being abused probably thinking "I did not imagine this would happen". And from there my point is to tell them BEFORE bad stuff happens to TRY and imagine that this COULD happen precisely so that they can better anticipate and potentially avoid something bad happening and not find themselves in a situation where they totally did not see something bad coming because as you say they "did not imagine it could happen" which is the exact weakness an abuser will take advantage of.
So to make a direct answer to your questions:
Yes people should complain and report to the cops if they are abused both inside and outside marriage, they should also report if it's the spouse or boyfriend hitting them or acting dangerous in any way. Same with you getting stabbed in a subway, file charges against the stabber, file charges against the colleague that punches you and file charges against the family member that becomes violent. I never said not to.
