o_O.Q said:
but you have to consider that you will never know everything about a person before you marry them secondly people are constantly changing with regards to their views and ideas you could marry a woman who doesn't find that appealing but over time she might |
It's not about her finding that appealing over time, it's about her going from NOT forcing the stuff she finds appealing to FORCING that stuff...
Just cause your husband or wife tells you he/she has changed and wants to try some kinky stuff, does not mean he/she wants to FORCE that kinky stuff upon you. I'm no psychologist so please correct me if I'm wrong but while people do change over time in regard to the stuff they enjoy to do, people don't really change in regard to respecting other's right to not be forced then change to enjoying forcing people to do stuff they don't want to.
The only good argument I understand and agree is your first line, you will indeed never FULLY know a person before you marry them. But that's why the priest says a magic thing during his speech, a thing that maybe people should pay more attention to: He says: Do you ACCEPT **** as your lawful wife, will you love her in health and sickness, for the best AND for the WORST....
If you say "I DO" you must know that you are marrying a human being that has flaws, that can change for the better just as much as for the worst. But you said "I DO", so yeah, take some responsibility if you say "I DO"...
Again before some politically correct idiot jumps at my throat for saying this, I want to be clear again that I don't endorse any kind of violence within marriage, I want to make clear that if a spouse is violent or hurts the other one, he is clearly guilty of that and the other one is clearly the victim and laws, MUST protect the victim. But I still question the logic here. If you don't want a spouse that COULD one day do something you don't like, DO NOT MARRY, say I DON'T instead of I DO, But if you marry, don't be surprised if the other one turns out to be HUMAN with HUMAN FLAWS and HUMAN behavior.
