Volterra_90 said:
I'm probably generalizing with my own experiences with relationships, so maybe that was a bit too harsh to say. But, well, talking about my personal experiences, I thought that every relationship I had demanded a whole lot. With the spread of mobile phones and message apps like Whatsapp, you're constantly in touch with people, which had its advantages, of course. But you could say that it's almost that you're in touch 24/7 with people. So with my previous relationships, when I didn't feel like I have to answer her freaking message for, let's say, a couple of hours (because I was watching a movie or playing Breath of the Wild XD)... Well, shit went wild a lot of times because of that. I don't think that this attention is healthy, and everyone should have space on his own, outside of the relationship, because that's fucking toxic. And that happened to me thrice already. The same shit. It went tiresome, and maybe I tend to generalize this attitude, but it was a 100% for me. That wouldn't happen years ago. Also, the modern Hollywood-movie concept of being a "prince charming", being so kind, so lovable, so gentle, so really perfect hurts a lot. The expectations are high as it could ever get, and I can't fit that stereotype. Well, and I really don't want to, because it's really pathetic imho. I don't think that in order to love someone you have to be always stating how beatiful/good/well-being the other person is XD. Again, I might be a bit OTT with "modern relationships", but I can assure you those things happened to me in every relationship I had. So maybe this was a wild generalization. |
Well, it's been a long time since I have been in a relationship, but I totally get the whole "in touch 24/7" thing, even with friends/family nowadays it feels like we have to be on call constantly, it's so stressful. I'm the kind of guy who needs his alone time to recharge, I'd get exhausted having to keep in touch with a girl all day every day.
