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burninmylight on 07 July 2017
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Cobretti2 said:
curl-6 said:

Still single, probably will be for the rest of my life to be honest. Simple truth is I'm just not want women look for in a man. In the game of attraction there are winners and losers, and I ended up in the latter category. Oh well, there's still plenty to enjoy in life; games, movies, friends, travel, a rewarding career, etc.

Looks is somewhat important but confidence and showing you can be therefor support is more important. Just avoid the gold diggers when you ger rich.

 

Quoted for truth. Confidence is the sexiest quality you can have, man. In high school, I had a friend who all the girls considered uglier than me if you just compared photos or us standing side by side, but he always got the girls or got the numbers. Why? He was funny as hell, he was smooth, and he oozed self confidence. Meanwhile, I was shy, stiff, sensitive and somewhat emo (I am the exact opposite now, lol. Some old classmates can't believe the person I am today).

I'll also say this: you migiht have to change some of your ways to make yourself more attractive to the opposite  gender. However, that doesn't mean you have to change the person you are. This is something that took me a long time to comprehend and accept, and I have a younger friend here in real life that reminds me a lot of myself from 15 years ago who I'm trying to help gain that self-confidence and realize his potential. I hope you find it too. :)

Looks are important, indeed. They are the very first impression you give someone, unfortunately, and those of us who struck out on the lottery in that regard will always have an uphill battle to fight. But showing that you are comfortable in your skin and making someone feel comfortable with both you and herself, making her laugh, showing that you can and will protect and provide for her, those qualities are as equally if not moreso important. Attractive can only take you so far and fades away with time; those qualities will always be appreciated.