| Cobretti2 said:
This is a mental state that you can get over slowly. Based on the way you communicate on here and your abilitiy to think logically, i would say the autism isn't that bad on the spectrum. My brothers friend has autisum and me and him barel can commuicate but he ha managed to find someone who he eventually married and now has two kids. Reading social cues, holding a converation is hard for most males that are different than the standard magazine picture depicts them. I struggled to with thee issues andeve to this day struggle to undertand some women or plain simply thing they are stupid. I think with you the issue is you have high level of intelligence and you need to find someone closer to your brainwave length. Trying to dumb down your discussion to someone who dreams each week about being something vs actually taken action and done something is a whole different level of socalising. I would say most intelligent girls would be somewhat similar to their male counter part. Ths certainly wa the cae for me, everytime i talked to girl that wasn't techincally mined i got real bored quickly. My wife in an egineer also and when we first met we used to talk about technical shit. The funny thing is now it all random jibberish that normal couples talk about like how was your day, you need me to buy this etc.. go away i'm busy lol. The first step you need to get over is just being able to say somethig to a woman without feeling nervous. At school start with class related stuff. When you go shopping at woolies for example and see some chick browsing the begetable section, just say Hi, what wuld you recommend? my doctor said i need to eat less meat and eat some vegetables, what ones taste good as i've never really tried anything over than mashed potatoes. She may look at you funny and walk away, but that's cool it don't matter you don't know her, but it may get her talking and at least you don't need to think too much on the fly as you are talking about one topic vegetables. This is just an example it could be anything. Baically saying limit the scope of the subject at first to build your confidence. |
Thank you. I tend to come across as a lot more articulate online than I am in person because when I'm posting I have more time to consider my words and sentence structure, as well as more time just to think of what to say. Plus, as you say, I already have a common frame of reference with you guys cos we're all gamers who love to talk about games. Maybe I need to find a girl who's a hardcore gamer haha
| TheLastStarFighter said: O(the very old)T, I've extremely happily married for almost one year. We dated for two before that, and our first son is one month old. Nobody is perfect but my lady is perfect for me. A marvellous girl who treats me with never ending kindness. It's like I dreamed her up. |
That's frigging awesome man, good on ya :)
| TheLastStarFighter said: I find your situation to be an interesting one, because you seem to have a strong understanding of society, but your autism presents an obstacle in execution. |
It's kind of like in a game where you know what you're supposed to do, but the controls are too laggy to actually pull it off.
