So I'm not having a child..

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LivingMetal said:

Torillian said:

Parent of a 6 month old here and I would advise for an abortion in the scenario of the OP.  You're young, just trying to figure out your career and you aren't in this scenario with a partner you love.  It's just not the time for a kid.  Sure maybe you could make it work, but having a kid is a lot of time and effort even when it's two people sharing the load.  Doing it all on your own while trying to get through college is a recipe for failure in at least one of those activities.  Better to wait to have kids until you're ready as you were trying to in the first place.  

There is never a good time to have a kid, and you are never ready for it.  You make it work, you just do.  That's just the way it is.  Anything else is just inhuman.  As a parent of a 5 year old, I wish I had started having kids 20 years ago so I can spend that much more time with them.  There is always something else we can strive for in life and always make excuses to not have or care for a child.  And with that mindset, it doesn't matter whether or not that child is legally born because it carries through unless there is a change of heart. The true recipe for success is raising that child to be better than you, not what you personally and selffishly want in life.  Any good parent will put their child before themselves.  Otherwise, that parent or potential parent deserves the same neglect he or she is giving that child.

Of course there are good times to have a kid, you're never ready but there are better situations than others.

A 27 year old couple with their life sorted is better than a 16 year old schoolgirl having a kid with her weird 20 year old boyfriend. (hypothetically speaking).