So I'm not having a child..

[Torillian]

WC4Life said:

Torillian said:

Parent of a 6 month old here and I would advise for an abortion in the scenario of the OP.  You're young, just trying to figure out your career and you aren't in this scenario with a partner you love.  It's just not the time for a kid.  Sure maybe you could make it work, but having a kid is a lot of time and effort even when it's two people sharing the load.  Doing it all on your own while trying to get through college is a recipe for failure in at least one of those activities.  Better to wait to have kids until you're ready as you were trying to in the first place.  

The main thing here is, this decision must not be done without proper thought. OP got the info and posted his thoughts just HOURS after. Everything screams panic and confusion.

It is easy to say "it's not the time for a kid", but there is no guarantee a better time will come or that a better time can be made. Single parents and parents in tough situations have made it and parents who prepared everything have failed. This goes both ways and in the end this is beyond what a human can control. My opinion is, it is the wrong way to look at this situation. You just don't know what will happen tomorrow.

It comes down to the valuation of the possible child. It is brutally harsh. Is your possible future career more valuable to you than a child? Is my current life more valuable than raising a child? It does not matter what you choose but you have to live with it.

I can agree with that.  Noone should take the decision lightly and whichever way one goes it's going to have a huge effect on your life so hopefully the OP puts an appropriate amount of thought and internal debate into the matter.