COKTOE said:
ArchangelMadzz said:
I feel like this situation would be much better if the kid was 100% mine and lived with me and she had nothing to do with it.
I like her as a friend but I don't trust her to raise a child. |
Why? Have you known her for a while? She may surprise you.
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I've known her for a few years, she's had some battles with mental issues and is currently on anti-depressants. But that is meaningless to me, I don't trust any 20 year old (being 21 myself I know we can be irresponsible) to raise a child. And it's even worse when it's your own child.
Zkuq said:
Congratulations (on not using a condom)! |
Unfortunately you are right, but we were using contraception. She just forgot to take it, hence my apprehensions to her raising a child as seen above.
Fei-Hung said:
ArchangelMadzz said:
WAIT. Halt the congratulations, there's no congratulations to be had here.
So, basically back in late July I slept with this girl (Omg a VGchartzer actually having relations?)
Anyway, she forgot to take her pill and now she's pregnant. Woohoo, anyway. So She's known for a few days and only brought it to my attention 2 hours ago and I'm a little bit jarred, well A fucking fuck tonne jarred.
We have been friends for a little while and just decided to have sex because well, I'm male she's female and we have needs, one time done and dusted. She's 20 I'm 21.
Now, I've just started college again the UK doing an applied science and medical science course in the hopes of going to university and spending 3 years there, but now I highly doubt I'll be able to do that and get my future and life sorted out because of this. My main concern is I don't see why she would want to have a child with me, why she would think it's a good idea that 2, 21 year old friends should raise a human being. The idea of having me as my dad would terrify me.
So we're currently talking and she agrees that it would ruin my life and it's not ideal at all, but is still considering to where she's at 60 for keeping and 40 for getting rid of it.
I don't want to pressure her into any decision I've only just made my case, she says she wouldn't blame me for leaving but there's NO WAY that after not growing up without a father I would have my child do the same, if she keeps it I will be there 24/7.
I'm just confused and frustrated and needed to vent to the one and only forum that I visit, thoughts?
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If it is such a big dream, there are still ways to make it work. It's not impossible to do both and I know many people who have managed to do both.
The most important thing right now is to decide whether you wish to stay with this girl. If not the next question would be if she is willing to raise the child on her own if you can't be there for her.
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I wouldn't be in a relationship with her, we'd just be friends raising a baby, which I have let her know. Although we wouldn't be friends as I would always hold resentment and apprehension toward her for what could've been.
