ArchangelMadzz said:
WAIT. Halt the congratulations, there's no congratulations to be had here.
So, basically back in late July I slept with this girl (Omg a VGchartzer actually having relations?)
Anyway, she forgot to take her pill and now she's pregnant. Woohoo, anyway. So She's known for a few days and only brought it to my attention 2 hours ago and I'm a little bit jarred, well A fucking fuck tonne jarred.
We have been friends for a little while and just decided to have sex because well, I'm male she's female and we have needs, one time done and dusted. She's 20 I'm 21.
Now, I've just started college again the UK doing an applied science and medical science course in the hopes of going to university and spending 3 years there, but now I highly doubt I'll be able to do that and get my future and life sorted out because of this. My main concern is I don't see why she would want to have a child with me, why she would think it's a good idea that 2, 21 year old friends should raise a human being. The idea of having me as my dad would terrify me.
So we're currently talking and she agrees that it would ruin my life and it's not ideal at all, but is still considering to where she's at 60 for keeping and 40 for getting rid of it.
I don't want to pressure her into any decision I've only just made my case, she says she wouldn't blame me for leaving but there's NO WAY that after not growing up without a father I would have my child do the same, if she keeps it I will be there 24/7.
I'm just confused and frustrated and needed to vent to the one and only forum that I visit, thoughts?
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If it is such a big dream, there are still ways to make it work. It's not impossible to do both and I know many people who have managed to do both.
The most important thing right now is to decide whether you wish to stay with this girl. If not the next question would be if she is willing to raise the child on her own if you can't be there for her.
