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| John2290 said: it's not that hard to get a shag |
Not for you maybe.
| trasharmdsister12 said: I may be ill informed but dating seems to have physical expectations that I'm not interested in meeting. As I've mentioned here, I'm a virgin and that's totally fine by me. If it wasn't, there are plenty of ways for me to have rectified the situation. But dating is tough in the western world unless you're religious and seem to get married at any early age or don't seem to have any hang ups about physical relationships. Let me get something clear. Socially I'm a very personable individual. I'm funny, decent looking, in decent shape, well dressed, well spoken, and not awkward. I make friends really really easily and most of my friends growing up were female and I still feel more comfortable around women than men. But being of low self esteem and having my insecurities constantly reinforced through rejection in a multitude of forms constantly has me questioning my worth to anyone. But even while I push through all that and try (I've been on a multitude of dating services for nearly 2 years now) I'm faced with no reciprocating interest from anyone. It doesn't exactly bode well for my esteem when you get no matches on 4 different services over the span of more than a year. Forget fear of rejection. I'm not even given the opportunity to be rejected. |
If it helps at all, I can relate to a lot of what you are saying. I'm 27 as well, and while I have dated in the past, I started much later than my peers, (first date at 23) I've been in a total dry spell for some time now, and I too have tried multiple dating services and had absolutely zero success. Basically, you're not alone in finding dating a basically unwinnable game.
