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Aeolus451 on 03 June 2016
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Ka-pi96 said:
Aeolus451 said:

Women have evolved to be the main caretaker for children. That's why I listed those examples to show my point to you. They're wired for it mentally and emotionally. Before they're even teenagers, they dream of having babies. Males for the most part don't ever think about having babies til a woman says she's pregnant or when he's trying to have one. So you're asking me to prove the accepted belief on which gender is better suited (overall) to raise a kid?  I wasn't even expecting someone to actually debate me on this.  The vast majority of the judges in the US will rule in favor of the woman over the guy in custody battles. 

Women by default are better at raising kids than guys. That doesn't mean that a gay couple shouldn't raise a kid or that single guys shouldn't raise a kid by himself. 

You're the one challenging the most common held belief in the world that women are considered the best suited for raising a child. The burden of proof is really on you. 

A 'common held belief' doesn't make something factual. There are countless 'common held beliefs' which have been completely discarded or disproved.

As for the women dreaming of babies, not only is that not entirely true, since there are women who just don't want children at all and likewise men that do plan on having children long before their wife/girlfriend is pregnant, but dreaming of doing something and actually being good at it are two different things. How many children dream of being an athlete or a famous actor or something? Wanting to do something doesn't affect one's ability to actually do it.

Custody using going to the mother by default? Yeah, that's called sexism. Discriminating against one gender just because they think the other one is better at something with no actual proof. Pretty sure people have been fighting against that kind discrimination for years in other places, maybe it's about time they did something about it there too. Sure you may have the breastmilk argument if the child is still a baby, but I'd expect the majority of custody cases are for childern older than that rendering that point moot.

As someone who raised by a single father I have all the proof I need already. And to be perfectly honest I find your suggestion that it's a fact I would have been better off with a woman than with my father quite insulting.

I think that you're misunderstanding me, Ka-pi96. Perhaps this topic hits too close to home and that's why you're not seeing the point I'm trying to make. In no way did I say that a child is better off being raised by a woman versus a guy. I said that women are better suited for raising kids (as in nature gave them the tools to do so). There's a important distinction there. 

I'll try to put it another way. Person A is naturally gifted at playing soccer/football compared to Person B but that doesn't mean that Person A is a better player than Person B. You're taking offense when there's no offense to be taken.