Moongoddess256 said:
Actually you're right. Unfortunately I'm 23 and all I deal with is boys. And honestly guys, someone who is slightly overweight does not look that terrible and its not like oh noes its the end of the world they arent PERFECT(I'm sure you guys are far from perfect yourselves). Because obviously, our purpose on this planet is to devote our lives to looking pretty for you and if we DON'T dedicate our lives to that, we are failures as women and should be shunned right? State your opinions but stop wording things in a way that is so disrespectful to women. Also, as for my anti-man rants... I was raised to have self-respect. Male behavior doesn't sit well with me because most girls are actually still raised to just be gossipy and pretty so you guys still don't treat them with respect. The thing is, I actually do know that all of you being pigs here are all talk and trying to seem tough and cool etc. I know most of the guys in real life talk big all the time and talk so disrespectfully of girls they actually care for. I want you guys to actually stop and think about the fact that you are doing this. Also, I have a little grudge against "men" due to things like sexual assault. Some guys go a little too far to get laid. It doesn't leave a good impression of men in general when guys are willing to go to jail and traumatize a girl just to get their dicks wet. |
@ Mistershine - good looking out, son!
@ Moongoddess - As Mr. Shine stated, the problem isn't really attractiveness - it's perception. As boys, we are encouraged to compete. From Little League to college sports, boys are pushed to win. Treating women with respect isn't hardwired into our DNA. Men tend to be visual creatures - women tend to be emotional. We tend to look at fat, overweight people with prejudice. We think 'That person needs to work out and push away from the table.' That is just as bad as judging someone based on looks.
For the record, an overweight person is overweight for a ton of reasons, including hormones, medication, overeating and several other health reasons. You would have to be shallow to look past an overweight person just because they don't fit your definition of a hottie. I actually became friends with a woman who was very, very large. I had no intention of hooking up with her, but over time, I looked past the physical and saw a quiet and gentle spirit. She was truly a beautiful woman, but physically, I wasn't attracted to her. Eventually, I looked past that because she became my closest friend. No, I didn't marry her, but she is still a great friend to me and my wife.
The world claims being overweight and fat is unattractive, but I beg to differ. At my biggest weight, I was 330 and still very confident. Matter of fact, I was trying to lose weight and this smokin' Latina was begging me NOT to lose it. She claimed I looked like a teddy bear and she wanted to hug me all day long. I wanted her but never really pursued her - and a few years ago, she revealed she wanted me and felt like I was shunning her advances.
I've had my share of women and have been big most of my life. A lot boils down to self-confidence for large folks. I realize there are some women who won't ever find me attractive. So what. However, I do know most women think I'm handsome and look like an ex-football player. Regardless, I don't let society dictate what's beautiful or not. I have eyes for that.
Lastly, you have some grown boys running around. Hell, some of them are even senior citizens! Guys often aren't schooled on how to treat a woman to start off with and are fooled by a big butt and a smile. They are down to hit it, but rarely want a relationship. If you spot a boy masquerading as a man, drop that zero. Real man are out there and a lot love them some thicky-thick women. I would gladly choose a chunky dame over a woman so skinny she's from that country Bulimia.
One more thing - beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And the very woman you shun ... could get motivated, lose weight and be a hottie ... and she'll shoot your butt down.
My motto - treat everyone the way you want to be treated.
S.K.I.L.L.Z. out
