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[danasider]

Cobretti2 said:

danasider said:

That right there is kind of scary. Mixed with all the other things, it can lead to you hurting people left and right (like you presumably have to your wife and friends by ousting them). Despite my inclination to judge, I will say it takes courage to admit your faults and know that there's something missing in your life which is why you are seeking out help. However, with this kind of honesty (and your dream job salary), I'd guess talking to a professional is the best option. Like others have said. The problems you have seem to go deeper than the typical "I'm sad because life isn't going my way" syndrome people mistake for depression. Get help, dude.

Actually he said he is a programmer I don't think lack of empathy is really an issue. Most people in technical fields have a lack of emphathy because of the way they process information. They use facts to justify their reasoning without an emotional thought on the consequence it may have on people who don't understand them.  

Him outsing his wife and friends is just an escape mechanism he used to cope with the situation at hand, kind of a reset like a computer to see if things will fix themselves without analysiing the error logs. It is a temp fix but the underlaying issue is always there which eventually surfaces and then the cycle begins again.

I commented on it, because he lists these out as his problems. If he sees it as something wrong with him, who am I to doubt that lack of empathy is an issue? Also, this trait is commonly associated with antipersonality disorder (something a lot of serial killers have). Not saying he has that, as I am no professional. To me, the act of seeking help is a great indicator that he does feel bad deep down and really does want to fix the list of problems. Just saying that lack of empathy is indeed something to worry about, a problem just as he has listed it, himself.

Still, interesting way of looking at it. I, myself am a computer science graduate hoping to get a good programmer job, but I don't see everything with the logic I use to build applications. However, everyone is different.