teigaga said:
Theres nothing inherently ''wrong'' with any of it, especially the idea of objectifying someone. But its completely understandable that someone may not want to constantly be confronted by other peoples sexual desires towards them. Its specifically unwanted in this context. A lot of these guys aren't eveb making legit advances, they're just making these passing comments because they like they need to make their impressions known but sometimes its best to keep that yourself because its not wanted.
To flip the switch: would anyone be surprised if a straight male was grossed out and felt uncomfortable being hit on by another guy as he walked down the street? Or if there was a host of throw away comments being made by other males who you knew were only greeting you because they think you're hot? You may personally not mind, but I don't think we would be having a debate if another straight would say it made him feel uncomfortable.
The conversation shouldn't be framed from an angle that every guy in the vid commited some horrible act or that men should never approach a stranger they're attracted to, but we do need to acknowledge that its not always a comfortable experience and some of the men clearly acted inappropriately.
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yeah i understand where you are coming from, however, it would be difficult for men to guess what's going on in the females mind and determine from that if their approach is going to be appreciated or not
although women do provide cues sometimes when they find a guy attractive and want him to start something so i suppose it could be said that guys should just wait until they see these cues
i guess guys who aren't attractive are pretty much fucked in this case though lol
