"10 Hours of Walking In NYC As a Woman "

[teigaga]

o_O.Q said:

teigaga said:

Saying good morning because your a sociable human being and saying hi because you wanna F someone is not the same. There is much sexual context in the video people are blatantly ignoring. They are objectifying her and she has the right to not want that attention constantly being thrown at her. 

Is pursuing someone because you want to have sex with them wrong?

 

i can't agree with you on the objectification bit wanting to have sex with someone does not mean that you disregard their mental and spiritual aspects

 

and honestly the whole notion about objectification is very one sided

 

it is almost exclusively used to demonise male sexual desire

 

however, when we have people go to war to die for ridiculous lies that is far far worse because we are regarding them as objects to die for our safety

 

and somehow i never hear about how objectified soldiers are

Theres nothing inherently ''wrong'' with any of it, especially the idea of objectifying someone. But its completely understandable that someone may not want to constantly be confronted by other peoples sexual desires towards them. Its specifically unwanted in this context. A lot of these guys aren't eveb making legit advances, they're just making these passing comments because they like they need to make their impressions known but sometimes its best to keep that yourself because its not wanted.

 To flip the switch: would anyone be surprised if a straight male was grossed out and felt uncomfortable being hit on by another guy as he walked down the street? Or if there was a host of throw away comments being made by other males who you knew were only greeting you because they think you're hot? You may personally not mind, but I don't think we would be having a debate if another straight would say it made him feel uncomfortable.

The conversation shouldn't be framed from an angle that every guy in the vid commited some horrible act or that men should never approach a stranger they're attracted to, but we do need to acknowledge that its not always a comfortable experience and some of the men clearly acted inappropriately.