| Baalzamon said: Yea, that was sort of my biggest concern about us ever even dating again in the future, is who is to say she won't just have some more issues, and once again say she needs to be single to deal with them. |
I'll tell you kids a story out of NiKKoM's love life: I dated a girl ,a wonderfull one, who was pretty close to her dad. The dad suddenly died. Unexpected. She was totally devasted, as was I and her family. the first few days were horrible. depressed, crying, couldn't eat. After a while her brothers and sisters dealt with it.. they were picking up their life.. but she didn't.. She didn't want to talk about it with me and stayed home every day. I wanted to be with her be she wouldn't let me.. Now own my life was on a collision course with hers.. My job, my social life is still completely the oppossite of being home at 6.. So we had THE talk.. She didn't want me to stop living my life as I was used to so it seemed better to take a step back.. and when she was up to it she would contact me again..
The young me said "OK, if thats how you want to handle it.." cause I couldn't handle the coldness anymore.. Dumbest thing I ever said.. She went from bad to worse.. and her mother staged an intervention and she got a lot of meds to handle it.. We never got back together cause I moved on.. Thinking back about it, I was a fool, I should have dealt the problems with her if we truly loved each other.. Be there for her at her worst, relationship aren't just about the good times.. it's times like these that define it.. and we messed up.. I wasn't there and she didn't trust/love/have faith in me enough to let me in her emotions..
We still see each other from time to time but its not the same as before... while we actually nowadays talk more about our "new" relationships with all the doubts, feelings and issues surrounding them.. we know we failed each other at that time.. This is the time you two defines yours..
Face the future.. Gamecenter ID: nikkom_nl (oh no he didn't!!)
