Nem said:
Fusioncode said:
Nem said:
Heres the secret to a good relationship: You solve your problems together.
It is incredibly shallow to dump her because of her looks. You can also help her lose weight. I'm sure shes not happy about it either.
If you do dump her, i dont know how old you are, but in a few years you will regret it. Finding a good person to be with isnt easy. The Miss pefect you are expecting most probably doesnt exist. You will end up alone if you're overly picky.
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It is shallow, but human beings are shallow people. It's very difficult to date someone if you don't have a physical attraction to them. That's the whole point of being in a relationship. If you just like spending time with someone without wanting sex then you're better of just being friends.
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Speak for yourself. You know the physical atraction only last 2 years? In that time you need to develop a companionship love or things wont work out long term. Its on psychology books aswell.
So, in answer to your point. Love will come, but its a different kind, deeper love.
The idea that you're gonna get the perfect woman all ready for both stages of love is laughable because it needs to be worked on. It doesnt just pop out already done. He will regret his decision in the end, but given he only cared for this issue after having sex with her, maybe he deserves this life lesson. He indeed does sound shallow in his actions.
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A companionship love sounds a lot like a friendship to me. Here's the thing: If you like spending time with a certain person but aren't physically attracted to them, isn't easier to just stay friends? Shouldn't your significant other be someone who you like emotionally and physically? That's what I think. But alas, you and I clearly have different views on relationships. We should simply agree to disagree.
