Saving sex for marriage... Avoiding Lust

[Zappykins]

JinxRake said:

Zappykins said:

 

I am sorry, but I think this is one of the most immoral conditions people put on young people.  I am not saying be a slut, but sex is part of growing up, knowing who you are, and maturity.  Unless both partners are not interested in not having sex EVER, then by all means they need to know if they are sexually compatible before marriage.

A million times THAT! Bad sex can and will be a relationship killer. It's lead to a lot of very unhappy people over time and will lead to a lot more. But hey...long as you're pure, why should anyone care that you're miserable and frustrated, no?

Thanks for your support.  Yes, it's true. I have seen really sad people get divorces because their sex life wasn't working.  Even when one or both realized they were attracted to the same sex.  I have seen too many homosexuals have a non sexual hetero relationship just because they don't have to deal with it.  Then, after they are married, when one or the other isn’t fulfilled things start to unravel.  Sometimes even 40 years later.

I believe not everyone is meant to be married.  But those that do, and want it, I really want their marriage to last for their life.  I liken it to trying to decide if you want to eat at that resturant for the rest of your life from the parking lot.  Sure it might look and smell good, but what if you hate the noodles?

Also, I have counseled too many (mostly men over 40) that are terrified they will not be able to satisfy their wife on their wedding night.