hsrob said:
Soleron said:
ghost_of_fazz said:
Soleron said:
ghost_of_fazz said:
I feel you're thinking of it in a very bureucratic way. Or maybe you've only been with people that think of it that way.
I think that if there's trust in the relationship, you are not needed to base your actions off what The Law says. Really, when a girl says "you can do anything you want to me", it's because she trusts you that you'll never want to do anything bad to her, or anything that she wouldn't like.
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It's just very scary because you can think you have that trust, and that you can take some of her words to imply consent, and then next thing BAM jail time.
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So it's all about jail, eh? Jail is what you're scared of, then...
You know what I would be scared of in a situation like this? Of her getting grumpy because she really needed the sleep and rest. Maybe you've never had real trust in your relationships if you're afraid of your partners sending you to jail for something like this... :/
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I haven't had any relationships at all. But this is a question of morality and certain people in the thread are extending 'well she'd probably let you' to 'it's OK to have sex with someone who hasn't given explicit consent'. Which it isn't.
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There is a level of implied consent in a relationship which allows you to do certain things without asking, what those certain things are depends on the individuals and the relationship.
You can't for example kiss a random person on the lips when you meet them on the street but this is normal in a relationship. Same goes for hugging, walking into the bathroom while they're showering, slapping their ass, kissing their neck, unbuttoning their jeans etc. At a certain point in a relationship each of these kind of things becomes something you don't have to explicitly ask for permission to do, where that line is finally drawn is again down to the individuals and the relationship.
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I can't speak for some of the others, but especially once you're married. You become comfortable with each and figure what is ok and what is not. Nothing would kill a mood faster than me asking my wife "Do I have your consent to act further?"
Relationships are not that bureaucratic.
