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[Michael-5]

Marucha said:

Yay. I didn't know if it was out of snark or not. So I apologize to sales if that was not the intention.. but I like to sorta step up and say 'hey' if it's just somebody venting here...it doesn't seem really fair if the intent isn't right to knock on them. I gave it the benefit of the doubt after he said it was misunderstanding.

To me, cheating in a relationship is a sign of deeper problem... maybe deep down you wonder if this relationship will go anywhere and your doubt creates lack of faith, letting guard down, etc...my thing isn't cheating, but usually I pick up really quick if a relationship is not long-term, I tend to sabotage it one way or another... oh do I ever... it usually happens for me after about 6 months. I was with my husband for almost 8 years before we finally tied the knot, living together for almost that... but I wanted to be really sure about what we both wanted before we took that permanent step. People change a lot in their 20's.

I don't condone cheating, but it's not my place to judge and everyone has their reasons,circumstances,etc. I figured you were just venting anyway.

Okay, I have a question which you might be able to help me with.

What made you realize you wanted to marry your husband?

I've been dating my girlfriend for 4 years, and we have no plans to ge engaged until she is done her PhD at least. We don't really talk about it, but we both have a mutual understanding that school has to finish first. I like 9/10 things about her, and many of the leftover 10% reasons I don't like her will probably get fixed when she moves out (she still lives with her parents at 24). However how do you know when THAT person is THE person you want to spend life with?

This has been bugging me lately because I've been making a few female friends who have been straight up with me and told me that they would be interested in me if I were single, and I'm not 100% sure if I'm satisfied with my gf. I never really had a serious relationship with anyone else, and I know it's normal to have some doubt, but listening to the reasons why you finally decided to get married might help me out.

I'm not sure if I'm okay with living with some of the things about my gf which bug me, but there are so few of them, I also don't think any other girl will complete me more then her.