d21lewis said:
I'm gonna have to agree with d21lewis on this one and I guess I have to agree to disagree with you. Two adults should have developed the skills to deal with losing somebody that comes into their lives. That's what dating is all about. You're trying to find that one person that is compatible with you and your life (including children). Children don't have that. In my opinion, it is totally unfair to introduce somebody to a child when they aren't ready to accept that responsibility. The child winds up getting attached and thinking that this person is going to be a part of their life and then has to shoulder the burden of thinking that they may have been the reason the relationship didn't work out. You're going to do this to a child every time you meet some hot chick/dude at the grocery store? Too many people in and out of your kids life. Not good. You get to know the person. You see if they're the kind of person that you want around your kid. Then, you introduce them when you feel like they're going to be there for the long haul. You can't just pick up on that when you first meet someone. It takes about a month for their real personality to come out. And if I personally just met someone, even if I'm 100% ready to be a father and they instantly start forcing their kid on me before I'm ready to tackle that obstacle, It's going to scare me away. It's a red light. It's like meeting somebody, going out on one date, and them saying "I love you". I'm not afraid of love but going that far, that fast is going to scare the fuck out of me. |
Of course you are going to agree with yourself! LOL!
Also, I completely agree with you. Kids are going to be confused if they meet everyone their parent dates especially if they only meet them once because it doesn't work out. The relationship needs to be steady first and foremost.
