As for the real father being there. There is no excuse you can't communicate with him. Real immature. Unless he is a huge ass hole and ignores you. But if he is mature and realizes his relationship is over with the girl and is okay with it and also realizes his duties as a father than there is no reason you two can't be adults about raising the kids. You can involve him in his kids you know.
What I would have done is talk with both parents about what steps they wanted to take(together). If they wanted to educate the kid about who the father was then the next conversation is who wants to have that talk with their kids. Should it just be the mother? Just the Father? Should it be you? Should all three sit and talk with the child? Or should it be the mother and father







