| NiKKoM said: Well I had that with another gf before my current one... we met at our workplace and liked each other immediatly.. so in the beginning we were really into each other.. but after 2 months living together we just couldn't stand each other... we loved each other but just being together too much time of the day was just too stressfull.. our sexdrive went down a lot.. We just ended up fighting and annoying each other... We were choking each other in life.. We weren't prepared to be each other partners... I needed to learn how to become a partner and not just this kid who loves this girl... in the end we broke up but it was a good lesson.. to love someone is not the same as to be someones partner.. it takes more then just love.. |
Dude, this really helps me right now, and I appreciate it. I met her in college and we've dated almost three years before moving in (and even before that, we stayed in the same building, just one floor apart), so it's not like I wasn't totally unprepared for what lie ahead. But until you live with someone, you can never fully prepare for life with that person.
She's made some personal changes in her way of thinking to handle an enigma like me, so I should make more effort to meet her needs. It just seeems like they came out of nowhere. I used to be the one that made everything happen in bed; now it's the other way around. But I'll take to heart your words on not just loving her, but being a better partner. So thanks again.
