Would you be scarred for life if a really hot teacher molested you in school?

[wfz]

Mr Khan said:

wfz said:
We have two different scenarios here:

1) child gets unwanted sexual attention by adult

2) child gets wanted sexual attention by adult

I feel like using the same term for these is wrong - we need to define them differently. Obviously, in the second case, everything would be fine and happy (emotionally. I'm also discounting future regrets, etc.).

Right, but even when the child "wants" it, generally things don't work out that well mentally, because usually the authority figure is twisting things around to convince them into wanting it

For instance, it's much harder to make it a dichotomy, like you have, if we were talking about male teachers abusing female students, even if the male teacher was handsome enough that the girl would go for it.

Of course, then you have the whole matter of how male and female sexualities work differently, how female romanticism is tied more to emotion and less to the physical aspect, so there's a lot in play here.

Right. I was just using a simple example to make the case that we shouldn't be using the same term for this widely different scenarios. It muddies the situation.