What do you think of cheating?

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Here's my thoughts on cheating...

If you're actually thinking about cheater or are a cheater, there is something missing in your life and you haven't really matured as a person. This of course is my own opinion, and if you really believe cheating is fine, then that is who you are. I have a different opinion.

When you're thinking about cheating there is fundamentally something missing from your life that you are trying to achieve by cheating. There are various types of cheaters, i.e. cheating for excitement, cheating for the chase, cheating because you're lonely. Each type aims to achieve a certain feeling or experience that they're currently missing.

If you truly believe cheating is wrong then there are two things you can do:

(1) The first step is to start understanding yourself. This is called self-awareness. Find out what you value. This is not a simple task. Once you find out your values, you'll actually have a more fulfilling life which may be enough to dissuade any thoughts on cheating.

(2) You may find out that you are missing something, and it's something you cannot get from your spouse. In this case the goal is to identify what this is, define it and to achieve it in a non-harmful way. An analogy is recovering addicts. Unfortunately being an addict seems to be more genetic and once an addict you'll always be an addict. The secret is identifying that you're an addict and changing your habits to place your addictive tenancies in a non-harmful activity.

I hope this helps.