Father in rural Germany finds his young son likes to wear dresses; does the same

[Ganoncrotch]

Torillian said:

ganoncrotch said:

Torillian said:
that's a pretty cool thing for the dad to do for his son.

Whether or not he should be enforcing societal norms is a debate but I don't think "he'll get bullied unless you make him stop" is a reasonable argument. Lots of people including myself got bullied quite a lot for getting good grades and looking nerdy, I wouldn't want my parents to tell me to dumb myself down and get a tan just to appease a bunch of assholes in high school.

I got a fair bit of that at school too and like I agree with you I didn't change because of it just maybe had slightly fewer mates than most at school but still got on with it.... but at the same time I think there is a small difference between me being at school with a gameboy in my pocket and rathering sitting down lvling my team for the elite 4 during school gym time and saying that it's perfectly fine to where a dress as a growing man.

People can try and shield their children all they want both at home and now going into schools fairly heavily that everyone is a winner and we're all equal, but the sad fact is this just isn't the case, some people come out of the school system now with their attendence awards and 8th place medals and are just dumped into a world where they are not really winners, but rather diluded losers. It's just going to make the shock worse and worse the more people try to convince their child that everyone in the world is a nice person with an open mind to everything.

Yeah one is more severe, but part of this whole sexual identity rights movement is taking steps like this in my mind.  Not forcing your kid to do what you think is right to protect them or because you don't like it.  

Disagree with your second paragraph though, just because the world isn't filled with nice people with an open mind doesn't mean his father should follow that trend.  If anything a father should be the most nice and open to their children's likes and dislikes.  Even if the world thinks he's crazy he should be able to take comfort in the idea that his dad is behind him no matter what he decides.  

I didn't mean to say the father should come down on him and tell the kid not to do it, no no I absolutely think everyone in the whole world in entitled to do whatever they want in whatever walk of life they want. I do however think the father should let the kid know, of what he will face in the world, keep in mind my father to this day still sees a tv remote as science gone too far, but when I was nerding about in my room collecting games and playing warcraft online he said a few times like that he didn't agree that it was how someone should be all the time but he still loved seeing how happy I was and how much enjoyment I got from what I was doing, now managed to find myself a gaming nerdy girl, get married and we have a house filled with all the stuff we love, and I still have my loving family always supporting everything we do. You can perfectly support someones way of life without imatating them to show that it is the normal. That can border on mockery if your heart truely into what you are doing and you are just imatating the behavour of your child so they feel normal.