Soleron said:
Yep, I have a tendency to take people literally under pressure (and I am under French-oral-exam levels of pressure in a conversation even if I know the person). I take any negative emotion displayed as a sign they never want to talk to me again, then I literally run away and am thinking about the mistake I made (or thought I made) for the rest of the day. I have tried those groups but they are full of people who are either i) genuinely retarded, ii) have no idea how to behave in a social setting e.g. shouting, aggressively talking about their special interests or making repetitive sounds, or iii) have other conditions like ADHD, Tourette's, autism and so on. I am capable of appearing normal it just takes 100 times the effort to do so. Or else it's a rote learning of social cues from a textbook. I /know/ Person A should say "Hello" and Person B should ask about the weather or what happened to them at the weekend, and so on. |
Sounds like you have a bit of Aspergers in you, don't you think? I think I have some of that myself. I am good at picking up clues in convos, especially at reading all non-verbal signs, but something is definitely wrong in my brain because in normal chit-chat/small talk, especially with strangers but with friends and relatives too, I'm seldom able to come up with something smooth or clever to say quickly enough. I come up with something decent to say when it's already too late and the subject changed andthen it would be awkward to say what finally popped up in my mind. This is especially hard when it comes to humor which is a huge part of socializing. I can almost never tell a joke or something really funny or witty. And it mentally exhausts me a lot to do this kind of small talk. So I am often forced to play the role of the silent guy in many convos. It sucks.
"Genuinely retarded", hahaha. Yeah, I was afraid those groups wouldn't work.
