I'm kind of taken aback by all this "if you use violence to discipline your children then you've failed as a parent" and it is somewhat insulting considered that I was spanked as a child and I'm pretty sure my mom who is a single parent raising two kids while taking care for her mother since her husband passed away last year is a bad parent.
when my mom disciplined me it was a swat to the hand/wrist or was swatted on my butt, I don't think it can be considered violence if there is no malice intent, it's not like my mom punched me in the face, kicked me in the gut, and then threw down a flight of stairs just because she could. it taught me right from wrong, and to not make stupid decisions knowing that there will be a consequence for my actions, i think it's what called "negative reinforcement" in my psychology class.
