Rainbird on 26 June 2011
| Mr Khan said: See, my experience says that confidence doesn't work one way or another. Whenever i try to stand up for myself, people just claim i'm overreacting and girls have told me that i should just chill out, and my confidence is always misinterpreted as arrogance or stupidity If anything, i've found confidence to be a black mark against me, and seems to bear negatively on my personality. Something else has to be in play here, because being a guy who knows what he wants and is willing to take it definitely isn't the one quality that works for you |
Without really knowing what kind of situations this happens in, it sounds like you might be needing some more self-irony.
Confidence in yourself is good, but showing it the wrong way can be a mark against yourself. If you stand up for yourself whenever someone says anything about you, even just a joke or something, it can be too much, and it's better to play along and make fun of yourself for a bit.
If you do it right, you still seem confident, because it shows that you know yourself and that you are relaxed about your personality, and your confidence shows through this calm fashion as opposed to being an overreaction to something. And you'll make the girl laugh, which is always a plus.
