So, I'm 21 and never had a girlfriend or kissed or held hands with a girl

[sapphi_snake]

Metallicube said:

PhoenixKing said:

And... according to my friends, nearly all of whom have done the above mentioned in my topic title, I'm not missing anything.

Apparently, I'm the lucky one because, according to one, I'm a 'clean slate'. I don't have any bad break-ups like they do and I'm not super depressed about that 'one person' who could make me happy all the time. It's not 'too late' for me to move on and such.

A lot of my friends have fallen in love and... well... are still depressed over break-ups that have been years in the past. It's rather sad to see... It makes me think relationships are all bad, lol. My parents aren't divorced but they have so many fights all the time and my grandpa cheats on my grandma... so yeah...

Um, what do you guys think? I mean, I thought I missed out when younger or was a failure like some people on other boards mentioned but... looking at what happens when relationships degrade so much...

You've got the right idea man.. You definelty don't need to worry about that stuff now. At least it only took you till 21 to figure it out. Because before you know it you're 24, still in the same situation, and just wishing you could go back and not ruin those earlier years of your life by stressing out about it.

Plus, they say you meet someone when you least expect it..

For a time I was really depressed about not having a girlfriend, but the more I go, the more I begin to think we are better off. Seeing friends and family in relationships, you see break ups, and these people get all depressed.. Not my thing. If you're happy being single, there's absolutely nothing wrong with it. It's less stressful, you get to have more personal time, not to mention far cheaper :). I feel lonely sometimes, but then again who doesn't? Lonely is just a state of mind anyway. You can be in a relationship and still feel lonely.

I did get kinda close to this girl in highschool, but I was more shy back then, too chicken to ask her out. Plus, the age difference I felt was a bit taboo. I was nearly 4 years older than her. It wouldn't be as weird now, but unfortunately we kinda went our separate ways.

Yes, when you were 18 she was just a tween. Huge difference. Good thing you never asked her out, or you'll probablq be getting out of jail now, and placed on the sex offenders' list.