sad.man.loves.vgc said:
well, since I suffer from delayed ejaculation , I can tell you A LOT. I live in Jordan and I am gay and you know, gay here means you death, so no one comes out of that damn closet. I spend the whole time masturbating since I can't have real sex and when I do I last for at least one hour before I cum, that's if I ever cum because most of the time the other guy gets tired of trying with me lol. What adds feul to the problem is that I masturbate using my hand only , no lubes so I am acustomed to 2 things : 1- ejaculating when I am completely alone so my mind finds it weird to ejaculate with someone. 2- dry penis, whenever it gets wet I lose some of the excitment. and you know how sex is tight and wet, I can't keep drying it every 3 minutes. ofc there are other causes like anxiety since I am not a whore and I tend to be very careful when it comes to sex, enough information? |
- do you feel addict to masturbation ?
- how do you succeed to get ejaculation when your are alone ? mental image ? internet ?
- reduce your masturbation time by reducing your exposure to masturbatory material (internet porn !), your free time (staying at home !), AND try do a lot of sport. Outside building your body and improving your physical strenght you will spend your "positive agressivity" on something else than sex and it MAYs help you to reduce your masturbatory activity.
- try to aim "strong love relation" and not only "weak sex relation".
- In a way, delayed ejaculation is really not that bad for your partenaire so people with "early ejaculation" are in worst situation than you
- Dont focus too much on finding a partenaire. Try to build your life for you and focus on your own achievement.
Dont spend too much energy, dedication, on other partenaire or potential partenaire that, at best, will give you pleasure, at worst will make you suffer.
Try to focus on "happyness is the way" (not the aim !) and just enjoy your life.
Time to Work !
