Have you ever been cheated/betrayed in some way? I have!!!!

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Bursche said:

Lets get back on topic shall we...

 

Ok backstory:

Im in highschool and I met the "girl of my dreams" across the street. She was all I wanted and I did everything for her and we did everything together. I really treated her like a queen. But we didnt have any trust in the relationship so it really sucked. 10 months in I had to move (Parents are in Air Force so we move alot) and we did  long distance. We did it for a good 4 months, promising ourselfs to each other, talking about marriage, etc, and she ends it out of nowhere because "she didnt want a boyfriend at that time". BS she didnt have what it took to deal with a long distance relationship. Then 2 weeks after that she started dating one of my best friends where i used to live. All he could say was that "she was fair game".

 Doesnt seem that hardcore but after all I did for her, it really was.  I probably spent almost 1000$ on her and made her my number one priority. (she did too until I moved) Like I gave up playing football my senior year, I blew off all the people who tried to talk to me when i moved here (she didnt trust me with anyone) and I basically set up my life so that i could work and be able to visit her (she lives in japan). 

So basically I was screwed by my first love, but Im glad it all happened though so I wouldnt have done anythign else and can actually enjoy my senior year. Plus trust is now my number one thing I look for in a serious relationship. 

 

BTW acting like a jerk to girls just to get in their pants doesnt work too well. All the relationships Ive had, the girls always came back cause i treated them well.  Even she came back once she saw pictures of me and my new girlfriend. Nice guys finish last until they meet the right girl, then they finish first.

Wanted to touch on this with man of the young guys on this board.   When you are in high school or are in the 19-23 year old range don't take a break up with a girl who is in this age range terribly seriously.   At that age many of you are still finding out who you are and so is the girl you are dating.  There are many paths a person can go down at that age and people can mature quite alot during that time.  All of a sudden it will seem like either you or her will decide that they aren't ready to get married, or at least not to the person they were dating during that time period.

Don't beat yourself up if she all of a sudden decides that "she doesn't want to date" right now as it's quite common for women to decide that there is a whole other world out there and they want to experience it before getting hitched and the thoughts of getting married at that age starts to scare her a bit and she decides to break it off.  

Those who are in their mid/late 20's will understand what I'm saying as we've gone through all of this.  If you look back at yourself when you were 19-22, you'd admit that you are much different then you were then.  And with your experiences you probably have otherlikes/dislikes then you did at that time.   Something you find a girl doing that was cute, all of a sudden becomes annoying.

 Jerks generally get the shallow and women with low self esteem.  The nice guys though get the successful, smart, and high self esteem women.   Don't give up if you are a nice guy, you'll find a great women who will actually appreciate what you can do for her.   And those who are younger, enjoy your time when young, see what's out there and let yourself grow and don't do anything that would hold you back.