Why would you want to be Gay?

[Sommernacht]

Onyxmeth said:

Sommernacht said:

I strongly disbelief that people just become gay because of experiences in their life and I especially doubt that one can choose to be gay. Therefore I think the thread title is misleading as in my opinion it is not a matter of wanting to be gay, but rather a matter of being gay or not.

I only think that's part of it. It's similar I think to being attracted to certain races or body shapes. We can have these things formed by the media, our country of origin, etc. I wasn't born to like big booty latinas, but a healthy dose of magazine reading, TV watching, etc. has formed part of my sexual attraction. If I was born in India instead, I'd probably have a different idea of who I found attractive. If this can all be affected by nurture within our opposite or same sex attractions, I don't see why some of it can't affect our sexual orientation in addition to the genetic piece.

 

Well, I definately agree with you that our experiences (media etc.) definately have an impac on us and our personality, including what we find attractive or not.

But in terms to which gender we feel attracted... I doubt it is that easily explained. Okay, people from different countries have different preferences in women and men, but isn't that more about the details?

Just as different heterosexual men around the world are feeling attracted to different female types, gay men around the world are feeling attracted to different types of men (more feminine or masculine men, just to name one example).

So I do agree that what we like in a person (and the look of a person) is influenced by our experiences (according to Freud also by how our parents look ) but I don't believe that being gay or not is determined throughout our childhood, for example.

It might be a mix of several factors (a discussion brought up in another thread here), including genetics, exposure to hormons in the mothers womb etc. but all that I can say is that I have never decided to be gay.