What about tactical games like Full Spectrum Warrior? I also wouldn't classify RTS as being an action game... or at least emphasizing flow.
I prefer games that emphasize slow gameplay, like Battlefield multiplayer, and a few strategy games like Valkyria Chronicles or Total War (too bad I suck at both at them >.<)
I like games that emphasize cover and not getting shot like Tom Clancy: Splinter Cell 1-3 (4 for last gen).
I like the feeling of being forced into a corner, foxhole, a state of perpetual war, and then trying to work your way breaking out of that. And when you do, the feeling is amazing. You feel like a god, after being pinned down by 3 enemies, and slowly picking them off by using grenades, using the smoke to move your positition, and then maneuvering so you can knife the last squad memeber in the back.
