mmnin said:
What do you know. I stayed a little longer. :p Thanks for replying. I'm always afraid when I post that someone might chew me out. lol. I have confidence issues. So one reason I don't look right away is that I'm really just too "tired" to deal with harsh backlash that would require me to filter an emotional response into something of more coherence. People do have a tendency to go where they are accepted. When we look at high school kids, they are in general subconsciously looking for acceptence and identity. When peers treat them like they are gay, many start to think that that is all that they are....gay. Some lose sense of anything else that makes them who they are. This even happens in some degree when it is a joking, friendly, or positive treatment. This is natural of their peers, because they are approached with something new that they might not fully understand. What is worse is that in this encourageable state, they are then taken into a very competitive environment where sleeping with people is one path to popularity, drugs another, and performing or showing off your body is another. Over time this strengthens a focus toward sex that can remain throughout the person's life. And of course there are also facets of it that revolve around getting paid to have sex of course, usually with older members of the "scene." This stems from this same process but is a different discussion. But none of this is as bad as a new person coming in with wide eyes and learning a new environment just to be taken advantage of by someone who already "knows" the scene. Most likely the very "friend" who introduced them, or a friend of that friend who they think they can trust. Thus is the beginning of the cycle. Or we could say that the beginning of the cycle is why they felt they had to do something different to find acceptance and identity to begin with. Something that should not have to take place. Certainly not everyone gets pulled fully into the situation, people have different paths, but that is how many situations happen. That is why veterans have the phrase "fresh meat." That "fresh meat" is likely a child (in life and finding himself) of a situation that he didn't feel like he/she belonged in. Take a child though who doesn't ever go to a club or bar. They might look for acceptance on the internet or might just be bait on a social networking site simply by having a young picture and putting up the word "gay" for sexuality. Again, similar path but through a different entrance. If they don't take either path, they are still subject to small comments at school or at home that help single out the person's feelings about their sexuality as an important topic. So much so that they make it a focus in their life. This takes away from other ambitions, and may cause them to take on maneurisms that they wouldn't normally take on. All of these during the crucial and fragile developmental years can also deeply impact a person's psychology. That is why many psychiatrists approach homosexuals from a standpoint of personal acceptance as a primary goal and solution to problems that may not seem initially related.
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These are interesting psychologics, although Im a little sceptical of how common and representative it is.
R u saying that these people wouldnt become homosexual if they lived in a different environment where they didnt get lured in by gay mentors into the "scene" like your describing above? And r u talking from your own experience?
