| alekth said: But sex before the marriage isn't necessarily a one night stand or sex with someone who isn't your girlfriend/boyfriend, or you don't love. And I respect love way more than I respect marriage. |
I understand, but what I am saying is - what are you looking for in sex? And if you care enough about this person that you'd share yourself with this person, why not wait?
The biggest thing is - folks say abstinence is not realistic is just a cop out. It takes a person who gobs of self control to not have sex than for a person to hit the skins.
I have always been wary of the crowd mentality. I am unique, not a drone. I understand how deep, far-reaching and emotionally connected sex is. Most folks don't - and they do it, enjoy it for a lil while and move on. They keep searching for something that's missing.
There's more to marriage than sex. While it's awesome, if you build a relationship purely on sex, it won't last - unless you keep paying.
The fundamental flaw in this argument is - what is love? Folks are quick to wanna bang a person, but that's just a selfish stance. They speed to eros - and don't stay. They can't. They wonder why their relationship hasn't stood the test of time. There are actually 3 loves - philia, agape and eros. For a lasting relationship, all of those have to be explored.
Too many times, folks will end up in eros, and then try to hit the other loves. The odds are stacked against you that that relationship will last.
Sex is deeper than just the physical act - and people wonder why some folks are hurt afterward.
