I was at some point totally turned off by all that feminism bullcrap. It's not like I'm against feminism or anything, but it was just all too much for my 18-year-old self to handle. I became straight up afraid of even looking at a woman, because I was always afraid of being accused of harrassing her or something. I didn't talk anymore to women I didn't know for a long time. It got so bad that there were times when I felt bad simply for the fact that I was born as a male. I was convinced that women just hate all men. Seriously, I know it sounds ridiculous.
Luckily, I got over all that shit and realized that I just should not listen to all those militant extremists among feminists. But yeah, I was young and didn't know better. Turns out that most women are totally normal people and don't freak out everytime a man looks at them. So I managed to get a wife and I wouldn't want to have it any other way right now.
That first paragraph makes me so immensely sad lol..
But yeah, totally agree with the second paragraph. You have to reach a point where you just have to put your faith in the majorty of women, who ARE sensible, kind, and benign, and NOT militant, man-hating 3rd wave feminists. And I truly believe that. I've met too many kind and amazing women over the years to believe this fearmongering.
The same way I laugh at this notion that some of the more paranoid women out there are afraid that most men are just out there to abuse/dominate/molest them.
Anyway, in relation to the topic itself specifically - For me, being single is not about women as much as it's just about me being a major introvert. I don't even feel particularly comfortable being around men, so you could imagine how much I'd be hesitant to get close to a woman. Hell, even within my click of 4 or 5 close friends, I probably only hang out wiht them 2-3 times a month, because I simply prefer my solitude. So I just feel with my shyness, and typically nervous nature, I'm just not built for a relationship. Perhaps I'll outgrow this someday, but I certainly don't see that day on the horizon yet.