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Forums - General - Hypothetical Question: Is it unhealthy for me to think that something's wrong a girl because she's attacted to me?

 

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Yes 3 27.27%
 
No 5 45.45%
 
What's a girl? 3 27.27%
 
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Jay520 on 18 April 2012

Prologue: This thread is entirely hypothetical and has nothing to do with my life or how I feel. I can't stress that enough.

Anyway, there's this girl, lets call her Amy. She's fairly attractive, not bad at all, above average. I'd give her a solid eight out of ten. Visually, she's well-made. Nice to look at. I don't know her very well, so I don't know much about her personality, but from what I've eavesdropped on, she's seems like a nice person.

I've recently been informed that she finds me attractive and is interested in getting to know me. For most people, this would be great news. An attractive, potentially nice girl has found interest in me. I should be happy. Upon this news, however, I began to question her mental status. I thought that something was wrong with her.

I still think she's attactive. She's still fine, visually. I just can't help thinking that something's wrong with her for liking me. Why would she like ME out of the pool of other guys? Obviously, that's a strange mindset. I'm fairly attractive myself, so I am conscious as to why she likes me. But somewhere, deep into myself, hidden within the haziness of my subconscious, my image of her is one of mental issues. I can't quite put my finger on it.

Obviously, this is strange, but I want to know if this is unhealthy behavior. Is something wrong with me? Should I seek counseling?

I'm going to engage in the relationship to see where it goes. Hopefully my thoughts will wear off soon enough.

Also, I don't have self-esteem issues.

Thanks


EDIT: Hypothetically speaking, of course.



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Millenium on 18 April 2012

Hypothetically speaking: No.

It's perfectly natural to wonder about something like this even if you have no self esteem issues. Hypothetically speaking of course



Faxanadu on 18 April 2012

No mental issues. You want to hunt, not get hunted.



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badgenome on 18 April 2012

Well, it is possible that she's crazy or something. But just don't try to fight her, and you should be okay.



Jay520 on 18 April 2012
Millenium said:
Hypothetically speaking: No.

It's perfectly natural to wonder about something like this even if you have no self esteem issues. Hypothetically speaking of course


That's what I wanted to hear! Good ol' reassurance. Thanks Millenium, you bring joy to my pain-riddle days!

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Jay520 on 18 April 2012
Faxanadu said:
No mental issues. You want to hunt, not get hunted.


I've considered this and I think there's some sense to it. I think I would be more comfortable if I had pursued her.

Gilgamesh on 18 April 2012

Your 17 who cares go for it. Not like relationships matter then it's just a big stepping stone.

But yeh something must be wrong with you if you get worried as to why an attractive, nice girl is interested in you...



Jay520 on 18 April 2012
badgenome said:
Well, it is possible that she's crazy or something. But just don't try to fight her, and you should be okay.


Sounds great. I've given up fighting after a particular incident, so this is good news.

Jay520 on 18 April 2012
Gilgamesh said:
Your 17 who cares go for it. Not like relationships matter then it's just a big stepping stone.

But yeh something must be wrong with you if you get worried as to why an attractive, nice girl is interested in you...


Yup, that's what I plan to do.

Gilgamesh on 18 April 2012
Jay520 said:
Gilgamesh said:
Your 17 who cares go for it. Not like relationships matter then it's just a big stepping stone.

But yeh something must be wrong with you if you get worried as to why an attractive, nice girl is interested in you...


Yup, that's what I plan to do.


Good for you man, get on that!