Metallicube said:
I feel ya, I have some major confidence issues as well, but for a different reason. I'm pretty sure I have social anxiety, at least in a mild form. It is basically that nervous feeling in your gut before giving a speech for class - except you feel that in a lot more social situations. Sometimes even just hanging out with friends. so gaining confidence is an uphill battle with that sort of state of mind. I try to be confident but there's always this paranoia in the back of my mind terrified of doing/saying something stupid. I struggle with the eye contact thing too, even with my family and close friends. And obviously chicks generally aren't too into the whole nervous/shy thing. I do have a couple of girls I occasionally hang out with and consider friends, but the idea of a relationship is about as foreign and intimidating to me as skydiving or climbing Everest. I'm sure rejection is tough to deal with, though I give you props for at least having the courage to ask in the first place. Some people struggle even with that. If you already have courage, I think confidence should naturally follow. I know it's easy for me to sit here and say, but try not to get too down on one rejection, and realize that it is a very common thing. I'd say if anything, use the rejection as a growing experience, and the fuel to motivate yourself to persevere. As they say, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger! |
thx for reading my boring post and the advice. Sure, even though I feel somewhat nervous everytime I have to talk to girls, I just do it (I do not have any luck though) but heck I am still alive so someday I will get it done.
Actually I met a new girl yesterday, fine body, nice face, very talkative and it seemed very interested in talking to me so I did as much as I could to hide all the nervousness and anxiety I was feeling, I dunno if I did a good job but who knows I am just to keep trying.
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