I don't know why but I only attract crazy women, actually I have a relationship with a girl that isn't crazy, she has a boyfriend and actually he's a friend of mine but I like her so much I can't stop having sex with her!

Wow. Is d21Lewis some kind of love machine, banging all these hot young women?

So you are proud of destroying your ex-fiancees life, the mother of your daughter? You laugh at her that she gave you 12 years of her life, hoping to be with you together forever and all you do is screw around with 19 year olds and then you think it is cool she has to go back to her parents house, her life in shatters while you screw a 21 year old girl and drive a fancy car?

Way to go guy. You are so cool.

I think you have a valid point, but I'll let the guy explain himself first. It's sad when relationships end, but it's no good when you have a relatrionship with a woman because she's the mother of your children, you won't be happy at all if there isn't love between you two. I'm guessing our pal here takes care of his daughter in some ways and the mother in other ways, I'm pretty sure the girl will grow happily. I don't agree on cheating (well, I don't cheat, I'm just the guy girls use to cheat on their boyfriends) but if the poster did then it's a good thing the relationship ended, I hope the mother get's back on track with her life and finds a man that loves her deeply, as I'm sure our guy here wants...

You mean as in: after 12 years he finally decided that he might not be in love with her.

So I guess you've never been in love and then got out of it, right? I've been in love, right now I'm not. Maybe that's the casse here, divorce rates are pretty high, are you trying to tell me that most of those people weren't in love when they married? Don't get me wrong, nowadays people take marriage for granted, thay seem to marry just because, and then get divorced as nothing happened, I know people my age (21) that have been married several times, I don't want that for me, that's why I'm not planning to settle until my late 20s...

Of course that happened to me as well. I am 30 and still not settled. But for me, after some years, and especially if you have a child, you are responsible for the other persons life and happiness as well.

I remember the thread back then when Zapp told the story of his huge fuckup. Back then he sounded like someone who realized he had fucked up hugely. Now he sounds like a frat boy in his late teens, not caring about how is ex is going through hell since 6 months.

That does not deserve any respect, especially when it comes from a grown man.

Damn.

Zapp is a mack. lulz.

Do you still love your baby's momma? Or do you love miss new boobs?

 I knew this was coming.  Who's side are you on, Faxanadu?  I'm going to have to report your logical post to the "Man Council".  You'll be turning in your man card soon!!  And we started dating in 1998!  Our 10 year anniversary would've been on Halloween.

Anyway, I'm not looking for any kind of approval.  I am what I am.  But I'll give out too much info about myself anyway. 

I lost my virginity at the ripe old age of 21. -Maybe a month before my 22 birthday.  I was very naive about the way the world worked.  My ex was the third person I had ever had sex with.  She lived at home with her mom, and we worked at the same place.  I had no kids, no bills, and zero responsibility.  She had a 10 year old son, and and she was 5 years older than me.  Waaay more knowledgeable about how the world worked.  I guess she was to me what I am to my girlfriends.

Things started out great, but eventually the honeymoon ended.  I intended to call it off years ago.  Then, she gave me the greatest gift ever: My kid.  So I stuck it out.  Over the years, I gave my ex everything I could to make her happy.  I got her the house she wanted, the engagement ring she picked out, the car she wanted, the furniture she wanted, and everything.  I was like some kind of dickless robot.  I never went out.  My life consisted of work and video games and family life.  Even though I was always accounted for, I was often accused of cheating.  Even though I wasn't.  Eventually, I evolved into what she thought I was.

I work 6-7 days a week.  I been doing it for years, trying to have the life I want.  My ex wasn't satisfied with what I provided.  She always wanted more.  Maybe we should have communicated more.  Maybe we should have gotten counseling.  Instead, I chose the company of younger women to drown my sorrows.  In a way, I think I wanted to get caught.  Since then, she seems to appreciate what I was trying to do.  I'm not exactly proud of how things turned out.  My kid suffers the most.  But I do think that my ex helped make me into what I am with her controlling and un-trusting nature.  And now, she wants to come back home to Zapp!  I do miss her.  I do love her.  But it's too late to turn back now.

See, I dont want to judge what happened nor the way the two of you broke up. I know life can be stupidly complicated and that at some points you have to hurt some people that you love because otherwise you would self destruct. I have no objection to this and I would not want to switch places with you.

What I do take offense in is rather the style of communication on here towards a heartbroken and desperate woman whose life has been turned upside down. Way too much "way to go dude, you da man" and "holy guac, she must be a psycho". And you, sir, contributed quite fine to this situation. To me this sounds like a couple of ignorant frat boys.

Otherwise I am fine with you as you are one of those special characters that make this site go round.